30. June 2015 · Comments Off on THE BATTLE FOR YOUR FAITH · Categories: Faith, God's Plan, Jesus Christ, Perseverance

Simon, Simon (Peter), listen! SATAN HAS ASKED EXCESSIVELY THAT [ALL OF] YOU BE GIVEN UP TO HIM [OUT OF THE POWER AND KEEPING OF GOD], THAT HE MIGHT SIFT [ALL OF] YOU LIKE GRAIN, But I have prayed especially for you [Peter], that your [own] faith may not fail; and when you yourself have turned again, strengthen and establish your brethren (Luke 22:31-32 AMP).


I remember someone saying that the original word satan used here is to DISINTEGRATE your faith. That word hit me hard. I thought of all the things I’ve had to fight against and realised that that’s what the devil has been trying to do…to DISINTEGRATE my faith.

I looked up the word ‘DISINTEGRATE’ and it is to; break into parts or components or lose cohesion or unity. Some examples given includes to become powder or dust; make into a powder by breaking up or cause to become dust; become undone; crumble, fall or break apart into fragments; crash – break violently or noisily; smash;

Children of God…that’s the plan of the enemy to crush your faith in to power or dust that it becomes almost impossible to put it back again. This is not a joke. If in doubt ask Job. Prayer is needed to stand firm. Peter thought he could handle it. He didn’t understand what Jesus was talking about. On one occasion Peter said to Jesus… Lord, I am ready to go with You both to prison and to death. But Jesus said, I tell you, Peter, before a [single] cock shall crow this day, you will three times [utterly] deny that you know Me (Luke 22:33-34 AMP).

The Message translation says – Jesus said, “I’m sorry to have to tell you this, Peter, but before the rooster crows you will have three times denied that you know me.”

This is why the Bible says… Therefore let him who thinks he stands take heed lest he fall…(1 Corinthians 10:12 NKJV). That was Peter’s case.

We all need to pray fervently that OUR FAITH DOES NOT FAIL us when facing real hard times. The message translation says – Simon, I’ve prayed for you in particular that you not give in or give out. When you have come through the time of testing, turn to your companions and give them a fresh start.” The Amplified say… But I have prayed especially for you [Peter], that your [own] faith may not fail; and when you yourself have turned again, strengthen and establish your brethren.

I’m not sure what battle you are facing right now but today, it is my prayer that you stand firm and don’t faint. Your testimony will one day strengthen and establish your brethren.

God bless you
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29. June 2015 · Comments Off on HOW DO YOU DEFINE BEAUTY? · Categories: Beauty, God's Plan, Jesus Christ, Marriage, Relationship

Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God (1 Peter 3:3-4 NLT).

As part of my travelling this past weekend, I met a lady who after hearing me share my experience of low self-esteem and how it affected me growing up, she decided to share her own experience. I actually wondered why she was gazing at me in amazement until she started talking

She came from a family of mostly women who taught her that her body was the asset she had to get whatever she wanted in life. That’s all her mum and aunties taught her and that was the mind-set she grew up with. She said when she entered a room full of men, she made it a goal to get their attention. This went on until she became born again, got married to a man that her mum and aunty disapproved of even after she had her first child. They still wanted her to leave him and hook up with someone who could afford the better luxuries of life.

She refused to give in to their demands but unfortunately, she still had the mind-set that her body was a great asset which affected her marriage so badly. Her husband ended up having an affair which made her very bitter. However, she wasn’t bitter because he defiled their married bed. She was bitter because he left all of these (referring to her assets) and went for another lady. How dare he? She said that what had kept all the men glued to her was not enough to keep her husband at home.

It’s not funny but I couldn’t help laughing. What an obsession with her body? It got so bad that she became out of control. She started smoking in front of her husband and going clubbing. Saturday became a case of who would leave the house first. She wanted to go out just so she could get men to chase after her. She said she wasn’t interested in going to bed with any of them but she just needed to be validated. Lord have mercy!!!

It went on for a while until the Lord decided to step in and started to really break her. That’s when she realised that it wasn’t about her husband’s affair but about the mind-set that she grew up with. The Lord then started to work on her and as she started to change, her husband started to change too and she said now, he hardly leaves the house.

Now, she has a desire to be transparent about her experience and minister to young ladies about internal beauty and was so excited that she met me. I’m excited too because chains need to be broken and it starts with you.

So, if you are a woman reading this (and actually men too), how do you define beauty?

God bless you
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28. June 2015 · Comments Off on SUBMISSION IS NOT A SIGN OF WEAKNESS · Categories: God's Plan, Jesus Christ, Marriage, Power and Authority, Relationship, Restoration

Wives, understand and support your husbands in ways that show your support for Christ. The husband provides leadership to his wife the way Christ does to his church, not by domineering but by cherishing. So just as the church submits to Christ as He exercises such leadership, wives should likewise submit to their husbands (Ephesians 5:22-24 MSG).

I came down to Abuja, Lagos to promote my book which gave me the opportunity to spend some time with an old friend and I was pleasantly surprised. After 12 years of marriage, my friend and her husband were acting like they just met. You could tell they were friends. Even the children were so close and you could just sense love in the house. We eventually had some time to catch up and this sentence that she said left me thinking. She said… “SUBMISSION IS NOT A SIGN OF WEAKNESS BUT A PLACE OF STRENGTH”. She said the day she learnt to submit to her husband was the day she realised she was in control of her home.

The other thing she said was that God told her that she wasn’t a helper to her husband. That’s the role of the Holy Spirit. Rather, she was a helpmate and as a result she should be fluid or flexible enough to adjust to whatever situation or direction her husband takes. “if he is up. You are up there with him… if he is down, you are down there with him…” I just wish I could say it the way she said it.

The conversation went on…. She said, before they got married, she was spiritually more mature than her husband but while many saw it as a potential problem, she told the Lord that she owed Him his sole and so as time went on the battle began. You know the kind of battle that goes on on Sundays when your very intellectual husband gives you 1000 reasons why they don’t want to go to church on Sunday. She battled with this for a while but the day she was about to give up, she said the Lord reminded her… remember you promised His sole to Me”. “God remembers the promises that we make” she said. Obviously, He does and I bet the Lord must be saying “you made the promise”.

I started to think… the Lord saw those struggles then… Why didn’t He just turn the heart of the husband? Rather, He was watching her attitude and today, things are different.

This verse comes to mind… Wives… submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives (1 Peter 3:1-2 NIV). Of, course, husbands are asked to be considerate as well (1 Peter 3:7)

Hmmm… the kind of submission I’ve witnessed this weekend obviously works and so it’s my earnest prayer that the Lord does deep surgery on the hearts of husbands and wives to restore marriages to what He intended.

God bless you
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27. June 2015 · Comments Off on WHAT WOULD YOUR CHILDREN SAY ABOUT YOU? · Categories: Uncategorized

Solomon answered, “You were very kind [showed faithful love/great lovingkindness] to your servant, my father David. He obeyed you, and he was honest and lived right [walked before you in truth/faithfulness and righteousness and integrity of heart]. You showed great kindness [faithful love; lovingkindness] to him when you allowed his son to be king [ sit on his throne] after him.
(1 kings 3:6 EXB)

I remember last year when an old friend came to spend some holiday with me. My son was also on holiday at the time and without going into much details, amongst many other things, she did something which I felt was disrespectful and definitely not the kind of example I would want my son to see. So, after a week of tolerating all her mess, I had to summon the courage to tell her to leave. It was hard but…blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly… (Psalms 1:1 NKJV)

She couldn’t believe it when I told her to leave my house and neither did I but it was something that had to be done. First of all, you shouldn’t behave inappropriately with your ‘friend’ in my house. Now, I’m not a pastor but since you are telling your ‘friend’ that I’m one, then what are you trying to say? What image of me are you trying to portray? And then, secondly, in front of my son? No way!!!!

If your children were asked to describe you outside church, what would they say? I heard of a pastor that would bully his wife and children all through the week, have heated arguments right from when they enter the car till they get to church on Sunday but then, immediately they get inside the church, its praise the Lord everybody. As a result, their children didn’t even want to hear anything about the God that their father preached about.

I also knew a lady who would bring in different men in to her bedroom in front of her children during the week but then on Sunday, fight with them to follow her to church. One of her sons became so bitter and looked at everyone in her church like hypocrites because of his mother’s behaviour.

Hmmm… WHAT WOULD YOUR CHILDREN SAY ABOUT YOU? King Solomon was able to say this about his father David… He obeyed you, and he was honest and lived right [walked before you in truth/faithfulness and righteousness and integrity of heart].

Have you ever stopped to ask yourself… what would my children say about me? No one (and I believe not even God) is asking for perfection here but until you are able to model the kind of parent that is a good example before your children, then perhaps you don’t have the right to request that your children should behave appropriately.


God bless you
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26. June 2015 · Comments Off on WHAT ARE YOU DOING HERE?‏ · Categories: God's Plan, Healing, Hope, Jesus Christ, Patience, Perseverance, Suffering

There he came to a cave, where he spent the night. But the Lord said to him, “What are you doing here, Elijah?” (1 Kings 19:9 NLT)

Have you ever been in a position where to everyone else it looks like things are going great? Everyone sees your great achievements… they look up to you as a great inspiration but as for you, you are just as confused, disappointed, afraid… you name it… as ever…

That’s because after every great achievement, you are probably worn or burnt out and that’s when the devil comes after you like no man’s business, feeding you with all sorts of lies and threats.

Prophet Elijah had just finished one of the greatest achievements of his life. He called down fire from heaven to consume a very, very wet sacrifice and then killed 450 prophets of Baal all in one day, only to find himself asking God to end his life the next.

Recently, I went for a programme. Only to get there to find the host at the entrance in tears. Oh my God… the driver that brought me was confused. He didn’t know what to do or where to look. It was such an awkward moment for him. However, the programme went on as normal. Tears hidden under makeup. Nobody had a clue. God did what He wanted to do and we all went home. But then after the programme, I called the host and the tears continued for about an hour… deep anguish… “I wish it could all end”. I wonder what can cause so much pain.

Hmmm… I’ve also noticed that the people that encourage people are one of the loneliest and discouraged people you can find… like someone said… “People leave encouraged while you leave discouraged because you’ve poured out all your courage into them”… and you just want to give up.

It is to all these people that the Lord is asking this question… “What are you doing here? Why are you so discouraged? Why are so depressed? Why do you feel like giving up?”

The enemy has been feeding you lies. You are not alone on this journey… I have left me seven thousand in Israel, all the knees which have not bowed unto Baal, and every mouth which hath not kissed him (1 Kings 19:18 KJV).

Stay alert! Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour. Stand firm against him, and be strong in your faith. Remember that your family of believers all over the world is going through the same kind of suffering you are. In His kindness God called you to share in His eternal glory by means of Christ Jesus. So after you have suffered a little while, He will restore, support, and strengthen you, and He will place you on a firm foundation (1 Peter 5:8-10 NLT).

God bless you
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25. June 2015 · Comments Off on WHOSE PRAYER REQUEST ARE YOU WITHHOLDING‏? · Categories: Action, God's Plan, Jesus Christ, Prayer, Thoughts

Then God spoke to him: “Get up and go to Zarephath in Sidon and live there. I’ve instructed a woman who lives there, a widow, to feed you.” (1 kings 17:8-9 MSG)

A few days ago I asked my friends assistant to do something for me and as I was walking away, I remembered that I had it in mind to give her a copy of my books so I went back to give her a copy. The next thing I heard was “Yes!… thank you ma… I was praying to God that before you go, you should give me a copy of your book”.

Hmmm… I looked at her and said “God answers prayers”. “Yes He does”, she replied.

So why am I sharing this? The thought came to me to give her a copy of my book before leaving only to now hear her say she was praying to God for the same thing. So, in other words, it wasn’t just my thought, it was the Lord that placed her request in my heart.

Now, please understand that I didn’t hear an audible voice. I just felt the need to give it to her. That broke me. I had to sit down because I was so moved by what just happened. So, how many times has the Lord placed someone’s request in my heart and how many times have I brushed it to one side not knowing it was meant to be an answer to someone’s prayer?

I’m sure the first day I felt the need to give the book to her was when the Lord wanted me to give it to her but then He had to remind me again to do it now? After all, … If you can help your neighbor now, don’t say, “Come back tomorrow, and then I’ll help you.” (Proverbs 3:28 NLT)

The Lord told Elijah that He had instructed a widow to take care of him but I’ve always found it interesting that when Elijah got to this woman, it seemed like she had no idea what he was talking about… She said, “I swear, as surely as your God lives, I don’t have so much as a biscuit. I have a handful of flour in a jar and a little oil in a bottle; you found me scratching together just enough firewood to make a last meal for my son and me. After we eat it, we’ll die.” (1 kings 17:12 MSG)

But God does not lie!!!!

Whose prayer request are you withholding? I remember a few years back, the Lord was speaking to me through a prophetess that came from America. He said… you’ve been praying to Me for something and I’ve ordered some people to grant your request but they are the ones delaying. Hmmm… That was about 4 years ago and I’m still waiting so if you are one of them… hmmmm… LOL…

Jokes apart, could you just be withholding someone’s blessing?

God bless you
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24. June 2015 · Comments Off on WHICH WOULD YOU PREFER?‏ · Categories: God's Plan, Grace, Jesus Christ, Patience, Trusting God

They soon forgot His works; They did not wait for His counsel, But lusted exceedingly in the wilderness, And tested God in the desert. And HE GAVE THEM THEIR REQUEST, BUT SENT LEANNESS INTO THEIR SOUL (Psalm 106:13-15 NKJV).

On Monday, a friend sent me a timely message that quoted the above verse and I couldn’t help but reflect on this last part… HE GAVE THEM THEIR REQUEST, BUT SENT LEANNESS INTO THEIR SOUL

On Saturday a lady was telling of how she was begging God for something that was obviously not God’s will for her. I have only met this lady three times but from what I know of her so far, she is a prayer warrior. People have also testified to the fact that she is one that prays so you can imagine how she would have disturbed the Lord with her request. However, she said the Lord told her plainly… “well, I can give you the grace to bear the consequences of what you are asking for”.

Hmmm, though it was hard to let go, she had to come to the conclusion that she didn’t want to settle for just the grace to bear the trouble that goes with it. The Bible says… The blessing of the Lord makes one rich, And He adds no sorrow with it (Proverbs 10:22 NKJV). This one would have been full of sorrow… no peace… no joy… She would have probably become like Paul who said… Three different times I begged the Lord to take it away. Each time He said, “My grace is all you need… (2 Corinthians 12:8-9 NLT).

The Israelites did not wait for the Lord’s counsel. They settled for momentary satisfaction. They settled for what would satisfy their lust but along with it came the LEANNESS OF THEIR SOUL. The Message Translation says… He gave them exactly what they asked for— but along with it they got an empty heart… and like someone said… THEIR BODIES WERE FILLED, THEIR SOULS WERE EMPTY. It’s possible to get that Job, that business deal, that house, car, man or woman of your dreams and still find that you are still empty.

We have got to get to that place where we can trust the Lord enough to say… Father let Your perfect and not permissive will be done.

“You parents—if your children ask for a loaf of bread, do you give them a stone instead? Or if they ask for a fish, do you give them a snake? Of course not! So if you sinful people know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your heavenly Father give good gifts to those who ask him (Matthew 7:9-11 NLT). God knows that some of the things we ask for are stones and snakes in disguise.

Let’s not force our will upon God. He knows what’s best for us and at just the right time, when He knows we are ready for it… we would eat the fruit of the Land (Joshua 5:12).

God bless you
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23. June 2015 · Comments Off on LOOKING FOR A TAILOR-MADE WIFE?‏ · Categories: God's Plan, Grace, Jesus Christ, Love, Marriage, Mercy, Patience, Relationship

Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church—a love marked by giving, not getting. Christ’s love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her, dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant with holiness. And that is how husbands ought to love their wives. They’re really doing themselves a favor—since they’re already “one” in marriage (Ephesians 5:25-28 MSG).

Yesterday, my friends drive took me to a seamstress to have some clothes amended. After waiting in the car for a while, he came to meet us in the shop, put his head through the door and with all seriousness asked the seamstress this question… “Madam, do you make wedding gowns?” I couldn’t stop laughing but then I had to ask him… “so you are getting married and you didn’t tell me?”. That was when he said “well, it’s the first step”. Once he has had the gown made, then he would start looking for a wife. But then I had to ask “what if the dress doesn’t fit her?” That’s when he said that’s the criteria. He would ask any woman he comes across to try it on… “take, wear this dress. If it fits, then you are the one but if it doesn’t fit, then you are not the one”.

LOL… can you imagine that? I felt he was so clueless when it comes to women because they would soon find a way to find out what that dress size is, go on a drastic diet to lose weight to fit in to it but then after you say I do, you begin to see the fullness of their body, character, and everything else they have been starving and then you find yourself asking… “what did I do?

Many men are looking for a tailor-made wife. Just give the tailor the specification and description of what you want and then look for a woman that fits that description. However, if Jesus who is your example waited for the church to meet the description of perfection, we would have all been in serious trouble. Rather, He loved and still loves us regardless and it is His love (not to talk of mercy, grace and patience) that transforms us.

I like how the Message translation above says… Everything He does and says is designed to bring the best out of her, dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant with holiness. And that is how husbands ought to love their wives.

Are you looking for a tailor-made wife? I’m not sure there’s anything like a tailor-made wife. However, through your sacrificial love, with Christ in the centre of it all, every loving thing you do and say gradually changes her into the girl of your dreams. Shalom

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22. June 2015 · Comments Off on WHAT ARE YOU LEAVING IN YOUR CHILDREN?‏ · Categories: Choices, God's Plan, Hardwork and Laziness, Jesus Christ, Obedience, Prayer, Relationship, Worship

As the time of King David’s death approached, he gave this charge to his son Solomon: “I am going where everyone on earth must someday go. Take courage and be a man. Observe the requirements of the Lord your God, and follow all his ways. Keep the decrees, commands, regulations, and laws written in the Law of Moses so that you will be successful in all you do and wherever you go. If you do this, then the Lord will keep the promise he made to me. He told me, ‘If your descendants live as they should and follow me faithfully with all their heart and soul, one of them will always sit on the throne of Israel’(I kings 2:1-4 NLT).

I remember these very wise words said by a very wise man of God… “It’s not what you leave TO your children that really matters but what you leave IN them.” Many wealthy people end up leaving the wealth that they struggled all their lives to achieve but fail to show their children how to make and sustain that wealth and in the case of Christians, many fail to point their children to God… remember the Lord your God, for it is He who gives you the ability to produce wealth (Deuteronomy 8:18 NIV). The New Living Translation says… He is the One who gives you power to be successful.

King David could have left all his wealth to his son and left it there but he knew that just like the prodigal son did, he may waste it in no time. So, he left with him a legacy that should keep him for the long haul.

David’s final Instructions to Solomon was to… observe the requirements of the Lord your God, and follow all His ways. I like how the Message Translation put it… When David’s time to die approached, he charged his son Solomon, saying, “I’m about to go the way of all the earth, but you—be strong; show what you’re made of! Do what God tells you. Walk in the paths He shows you: Follow the life-map absolutely, keep an eye out for the signposts, His course for life set out in the revelation to Moses; then you’ll get on well in whatever you do and wherever you go. Then God will confirm what He promised me when He said, ‘If your sons watch their step, staying true to Me heart and soul, you’ll always have a successor on Israel’s throne.’

Father’s day has just gone by. Many children celebrated their dad’s in very special ways and many dads must have felt really loved and appreciated. However, I believe it’s a good time to reflect. And the question… is if I’m no longer around, what would my children really appreciate me the most me for? Money? Houses? Cars? The fear of the Lord? A life of prayer and worship?

What are you leaving IN your children?

God bless you
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21. June 2015 · Comments Off on MEN AFTER GOD’S HEART‏ · Categories: Action, Jesus Christ, Relationship

But God removed Saul and replaced him with David, a man about whom God said, ‘I have found David son of Jesse, a man after my own heart. He will do everything I want him to do.’ (Acts 13:22 NLT)

A friend was telling of what happened when she had to spend some time in hospital. One Friday while she was waiting ‎for her husband to bring food for her in the hospital, there was this particular nurse that kept on pestering her to eat something from the hospital. My friend kept saying “no thanks, my husband would soon come with food for me” but the nurse was like… You better eat something now else you would starve of hunger. However, she soon gave up because my friend was bent on waiting for her husband. Before long her husband showed up with food for her and made sure both son and mother were taken care off, attending to every need before leaving to go and take care of the other children at home‎.

The weekend passed and Monday came and the nurse came back to tell my friend that when she got home that night, she had to go on her knees and cry out to God thanking Him for what she witnessed that day. After having bad experiences with men, she had completely closed the door to that aspect of her life and she and the Lord has been in this battle for a while ‎trying to get her to open up her heart again. She said she watched as this father and husband so lovingly attended to mother and son that she was moved to tears.

‎Hmmm… Why have some women completely ruled out the whole male gender? I recently heard a story of how God had to ask a woman… “What about your husband?” Every time this woman prayed, she would pray for herself and her children alone until the day God had to ask “what about your husband????” LOL… but she’s not the only one!!!!

I have seen the worst of men/fathers but I have also seen the best of men/fathers… men that would spend all of Saturday night attending to their son in hospital, take a shower in the hospital Sunday morning, go straight from there to preach and then back to the hospital to be by their son’s bedside.

I’ve also seen men that would take on children that are not their biological children and treat them like they were their own, showing them the heart of our Father God and its one of my passions to minister to our young men coming up to have the heart of our Father God.

Like I said, I’ve seen the worst and I’ve seen the best. I’m not going to mention names lest I get in to trouble but it’s to these men/fathers that I say “Happy father’s day”.

God bless you
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