29. June 2015 · Comments Off on HOW DO YOU DEFINE BEAUTY? · Categories: Beauty, God's Plan, Jesus Christ, Marriage, Relationship

Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God (1 Peter 3:3-4 NLT).

As part of my travelling this past weekend, I met a lady who after hearing me share my experience of low self-esteem and how it affected me growing up, she decided to share her own experience. I actually wondered why she was gazing at me in amazement until she started talking

She came from a family of mostly women who taught her that her body was the asset she had to get whatever she wanted in life. That’s all her mum and aunties taught her and that was the mind-set she grew up with. She said when she entered a room full of men, she made it a goal to get their attention. This went on until she became born again, got married to a man that her mum and aunty disapproved of even after she had her first child. They still wanted her to leave him and hook up with someone who could afford the better luxuries of life.

She refused to give in to their demands but unfortunately, she still had the mind-set that her body was a great asset which affected her marriage so badly. Her husband ended up having an affair which made her very bitter. However, she wasn’t bitter because he defiled their married bed. She was bitter because he left all of these (referring to her assets) and went for another lady. How dare he? She said that what had kept all the men glued to her was not enough to keep her husband at home.

It’s not funny but I couldn’t help laughing. What an obsession with her body? It got so bad that she became out of control. She started smoking in front of her husband and going clubbing. Saturday became a case of who would leave the house first. She wanted to go out just so she could get men to chase after her. She said she wasn’t interested in going to bed with any of them but she just needed to be validated. Lord have mercy!!!

It went on for a while until the Lord decided to step in and started to really break her. That’s when she realised that it wasn’t about her husband’s affair but about the mind-set that she grew up with. The Lord then started to work on her and as she started to change, her husband started to change too and she said now, he hardly leaves the house.

Now, she has a desire to be transparent about her experience and minister to young ladies about internal beauty and was so excited that she met me. I’m excited too because chains need to be broken and it starts with you.

So, if you are a woman reading this (and actually men too), how do you define beauty?

God bless you
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16. July 2014 · Comments Off on THE BEAUTY OF EMBRACING IMPERFECTION · Categories: Beauty, Freedom, God's Plan, Jesus Christ, Wisdom

The great Apostle Paul who wrote thirteen (some say fourteen) of the books of the New Testament had this to say about his journey… I’m not saying that I have this all together, that I have it made. But I am well on my way, reaching out for Christ, who has so wondrously reached out for me. Friends, don’t get me wrong: BY NO MEANS DO I COUNT MYSELF AN EXPERT IN ALL OF THIS, but I’ve got my eye on the goal, where God is beckoning us onward—to Jesus. I’m off and running, and I’m not turning back (Philippians 3:12-14 MSG).

I’ve found that one of the biggest things that keep people at a standstill in life is wanting to be perfect before they embark on whatever the Lord has placed in their hearts. I know too well what I’m talking about because I once used to be a perfectionist. In fact, I used to fight with my bishop because I absolutely hated it when he put me on the spot. I used to tell him to give me advanced notice to prepare very well if he wanted me to lead prayer… Bible study etc.

However, while I absolutely believe in preparation, I’ve come to realise that we sometimes limit the Holy Spirit from doing His job. Some of the greatest meetings I’ve done where the ones that I just flowed with the Holy Spirit. Actually, one of the things the Lord told me was not to get too bogged down with what I’ve written down in my notes. He would be the One to take the words that come out of my mouth and translate them so people can hear what He wants them to hear. I struggled with it at first but I’m fast learning to let go and it’s a great relief being able to embrace all my imperfections.

I absolutely love Paul’s simplicity in doing things; an approach which on the contrary was packed with so much wisdom. He said… when I first came to you, dear brothers and sisters, I didn’t use lofty words and impressive wisdom to tell you God’s secret plan. For I decided that while I was with you I would forget everything except Jesus Christ, the one who was crucified. I came to you in weakness—timid and trembling. And my message and my preaching were very plain. Rather than using clever and persuasive speeches, I relied only on the power of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 2:1-4 NLT).

Two weeks ago, my bishop called me his educated, bush, village girl (LOL). Well, I’m all things to all people and again… Paul was able to rejoice over his weaknesses. He said the Lord told him… My power works best in weakness.” So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me (2 Corinthians 12:9 NLT).

Like Paul, I’m not AN EXPERT IN ALL OF THIS… but if only you knew how wonderful it is for God to use your weaknesses, you would be surprised at how good He would make you look.

God bless you
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19. January 2014 · Comments Off on TAKE OFF THE VEIL · Categories: Beauty, Fruit of the Spirit, Jesus Christ, Love, Marriage, Relationship

When morning came, there was Leah! So Jacob said to Laban, “What is this you have done to me? I served you for Rachel, didn’t I? Why have you deceived me?” (Genesis 29:25 NIV)

Last week, I went to the salon to get a haircut and because the guy that usually cuts my hair wasn’t around, I had to show the barber a picture of how I normally cut my hair and as he looked at the picture he asked ‘who’s that?’ Ha ha… very funny! We both burst into laughter. What do you mean ‘who’s that?’ It’s me. I told him to wait until I finished dressing up and putting my makeup on. LOL. The thing is I had just finished from a long day at work. I ran straight home to texturize my hair and then off to the barbers salon. I couldn’t be bothered to put my face on.

Why am I saying this? I had a ‘Meeting by the well’ event yesterday and the theme was ‘LET’S BE REAL’ based on what Jesus told the Samaritan woman that He met by the well… Jesus said to her, Go, call your husband and come back here. The woman answered, I have no husband. Jesus said to her, You have spoken truly in saying, I have no husband. For you have had five husbands, and THE MAN YOU ARE NOW LIVING WITH IS NOT YOUR HUSBAND. In this you have spoken truly (John 4:16-18 AMP)

Because it was Jacob’s well and the woman asked Jesus if He was greater than Jacob who built the well and drank from it himself, I decided to talk about Jacob’s love life. Somehow, Jacob was deceived into marrying another woman and didn’t get to find out because in those days they used to wear a veil over the brides face and after probably drinking himself stupid… well…it was the next morning he got to find out the deception. As a result Leah found herself trapped in a loveless marriage because her husband loved someone else.

Somehow, the Veil she wore hid her real self and bringing this home today… hmmm… ladies… the heavy makeup; the good girl attitude… the pretence to be who we are not just to get a man to say I DO and then the morning after the makeup is on the pillow and the wig on the floor… and the man is left thinking… “WHAT IS THIS YOU HAVE DONE TO ME?… WHY HAVE YOU DECEIVED ME?”

I remember at university there was a girl people used to call ‘cement face’ or something like that because they claimed if you hit her face, it would crack because of the heavy foundation. Please don’t get me wrong I’m not saying makeup or anything like that is bad but… your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight (1 Peter 3:3-4 NIV)

God bless you
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