20. January 2016 · Comments Off on YOUR CHILD IS IN GOD’S HANDS‏ · Categories: God's Plan, Jesus Christ, Relationship, Trusting God, Youth

When the water in the container was all gone, in desperation she left the child under the shade of one of the bushes. Then she walked off and sat down opposite him, about a bowshot away. I can’t bear to watch my child die. As she sat there, she cried loudly. God heard the voice of young Ishmael, and a messenger of God called out to Hagar from heaven. Why are you so upset, Hagar? Don’t be afraid. God has heard the voice of young Ishmael. (Genesis 21:15-17 VOICE).

Reading this, I realised something I had never considered before. The accompanying notes in by Bible translation highlighted the fact that though Ishmael was about 16 years old at this time, Hagar still considers him as just a child but Ishmael wasn’t a baby by this time. However, I don’t know why I always pictured him as still a baby or little child. Am I the only one?

Many Bible translations refer to him as child but the Amplified Bible, Classic Edition calls him ‘youth’.

Anyway, immediately, the Lord reminded me of the conversation I had with someone the night before. They were telling of a time they were facing some challenges and how painful it was not knowing where they would live, what to eat, etc… “that’s difficult with a child”, they said.

Hmmm… that’s difficult no doubt but somehow, I found myself telling them that their child was stronger than they thought and that the Lord was also preparing the child for her own ministry and as parents, we should trust that our children are in God’s hands‏.

Back to Hagar… What troubles you, Hagar? Fear not, for God has heard the voice of the youth where he is (Genesis 21:17 AMP).

Hmmm… God heard the voice of the youth and not the mum’s and this isn’t to say you shouldn’t be concerned about your child’s welfare but how old is the child again? I like what the Lord says next… Lift the boy up and take him by the hand, for I will make him into a great nation.” (Genesis 21:18 NIV)

Take him by the hand… walk him through some things. The journey may be rough but you need to see the well of water in front of you… Then God opened her eyes and she saw a well of water. So she went and filled the skin with water and gave the boy a drink (Genesis 21:19 NIV).

The circumstance around the child’s birth was irrelevant to God… God was with Ishmael, and he grew and developed… (Genesis 21:20 AMP).

Beloved, are you concerned about your child? Jesus calls us all into a personal relationship with Him and that includes our children and He knows exactly where they are and how to reach them. As custodian, your role is to lead them to the well of water and leave them in the Lord’s hands, trusting that… it is God who works in us all both to will and to do His good pleasures (Philippians 2:13).

God bless you in Jesus Christ name
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16. September 2015 · Comments Off on WHO CAN SEPARATE YOU FROM THE LOVE OF GOD?‏ · Categories: God's Plan, Jesus Christ, Love, Mind, Rejection, Relationship, Reward, Thoughts, Words, Youth

WHO SHALL SEPARATE US FROM THE LOVE OF CHRIST? Shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword? …. For I am persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come, nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord (Romans 8:35, 38-39 NKJV).

I remember someone saying that we should notice that ‘YOU’ are not on the above list. That made me think. Now, its not that you can stop God from loving you but do you know that you can prevent yourself from receiving His love and what He wants to give you because you are always thinking you don’t deserve it?

Unfortunately, I learnt while studying counselling that this feeling of ‘conditional’ love and acceptance happens to us early in life and over time, our self-concept is formed by the ‘conditions ‎of worth’ put on us by others. Most people want to be accepted and loved and look to others to get this and if we’ve received unconditional acceptance early, then we grow up to accept love easily.

As babies, we are born into the world not having to conform to the expectations of others. Babies don’t have to earn love. If you are hungry or need your nappy changed, you just cry and expect someone to attend to you. If these needs are met, that’s when we develop a fundamentally important feeling of being loved and wanted. We feel that we are loveable just because we exist (unconditional love). The message your mind receives tends to be: “I will love you no matter what you do”.

However, things change as we grow up and start getting told off. Over time, as we start seeing the reactions of others that certain things are not acceptable, we begin to adjust and develop a self-concept in response to the expectations of others.

The message your mind receives now tends to be: “I will love you if…”

For example, a parent might say I will kiss you and read you a story if you stop having a tantrum and go straight to bed. Our mind processes that as a ‘condition of worth’. Mummy would love me and reward me if I’m good. Over time, love and approval becomes increasingly ‘conditional’ so we tend to adjust our behaviour to meet the conditions that bring love which then sets the pattern for ways we behave in relationships with other people.

Unfortunately, we bring this mind-set into our relationship with God and it takes a lot of renewing of the mind to know that God loves you regardless of what you do… God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us (Romans 5:8 NKJV).

His love for you is based on HIS CHARACTER (1 John 4:8) and not what you do so again I ask… WHO CAN SEPARATE YOU FROM THE LOVE OF GOD?‏

God bless you
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07. September 2015 · Comments Off on ‏TIME TO FORGIVE WHO DROPPED YOU · Categories: Forgive, Jesus Christ, Relationship, Restoration, Youth

Saul’s son Jonathan had a son named Mephibosheth, who was crippled as a child. He was five years old when the report came from Jezreel that Saul and Jonathan had been killed in battle. When the child’s nurse heard the news, she picked him up and fled. But as she hurried away, she dropped him, and he became crippled (2 Samuel 4:4 NLT).

‎A young lady once told me that when Jesus says… unless you become like little children, you will never get into the Kingdom of Heaven (Matthew 18:3)… for her, childhood memory isn’t such a good one. That really made me think of the hurt and bitterness many are carrying.

Thinking about Mephibosheth’s story, I can only just imagine his feelings towards ‎the nurse that dropped him. Imagine what went through his mind all those years in Lo Debar (a land of the forgotten)?

If only you handled me with care… If only you were well trained…

When you’ve been dropped by someone, there’s the tendency to develop a victim’s mentality. However, we must stop to think about the situation the nurse was in. She did the best she could in a bad situation. She was really trying to help. It’s just that she panicked and with hands not strong enough to carry him, she dropped him.

Unfortunately, some of us where raised by or left in the care of people not strong enough to carry us and I remember spending a considerable amount of time counselling someone last week to snap out of it. I was tired of hearing him go over the same story week after week of the things that happened to him growing up. ‎Really???

Don’t spend the rest of your life blaming people. I tried t‎o make them see that in some ways, we are all broken and in trying to work/walk our way through our own brokenness, we sometimes end up hurting others. Imagine two parents who can’t seem to make their relationship work because they are both in some ways dealing with unresolved issues from their own past. However, somehow they fail to realise what their constant war at each other is doing to their children.

I was also listening to some children attack their mum for not ‎being able to communicate with them properly. “She writes things in a letter one complained” and with tears running down their mums cheeks, she said “but that’s the only way I know how to. I wrote letters to my own mum because that’s the only way we could communicate”. That was a breakthrough moment because for the first time, the children saw what it was like to be their mother.

Hmmm… It’s time to decide to forgive who dropped you because probably their hands weren’t strong enough to carry you.

David invited Mephibosheth to come and dine at the kings table (2 Samuel 9:7). Today, Jesus is extending that invitation to you. On His table there’s healing, restoration and everything you need to get back on your feet. Are you going to accept His invitation?

God bless you
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24. August 2015 · Comments Off on WATCH WHAT YOU SAY · Categories: Agreement, Jesus Christ, Self Control, Wisdom, Words, Youth

Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and they who indulge in it shall eat the fruit of it [for death or life] (Proverbs 18:21 AMP).

On Saturday, we had our youth event. It was one where we allowed the youth to just talk and in doing so, I was amazed at how much wisdom you can hear from the mouth of someone if you just put your judgements to one side.

There was this young guy with a big chain round his neck and piercing in his noise but the wisdom that came from his mouth was something else. Talking about youth crime, he said we should stop prophesying negative things over our youths and thinking about it, because of all the negative things we hear about the youths today, that’s all we ever do. You would hear people say “there’s no hope for this generation… they are all useless… they are always up to no good”… blah blah blah. Hmmm…

He then took it further and started advising that we should be careful what we say and what got me was when he said demons are just standing there waiting to say ‘AMEN’ to your negative confession. He said he is very careful what he says. For example, when he is in the lift and someone askes the question “are we going down?” Instead of saying yes, he says, “no… no… no… let’s clarify this… the lift is going down, not me. I am not going down. I am going up”. Let’s not give the agents of satan something to say ‘AMEN’ to.

What does ‘AMEN’ mean? It means ‘so be it’. Hmmm… so what are the words that come out from your mouth? When you say something, you have given out a command for either the angel of the Lord or the agents of satan to run with.

I remember a story that was told of a woman that bought a car and the words that continually came out of her mouth, according to my people was that… “I just know that one day… one day… I’m going to use this car to have an accident”. What negative confession? It eventually happened just as she said, then she started saying… “Didn’t I say it? I said it!” Yes, you said it dear so now don’t complain. You gave the enemy an opportunity to say a big Amen not just once but over and over again.

The words that we speak have so much power. The New Living Translation says… The tongue can bring death or life; those who love to talk will reap the consequences… while the Message Translation says… Words kill, words give life; they’re either poison or fruit—you choose.

You choose!!! Isn’t it time to clean out your mouth?

God bless you
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24. May 2015 · Comments Off on JUST WAIT TILL YOU HEAR MY STORY · Categories: Anointing, Authority, God's Plan, Jesus Christ, Salvation, Testimony, Youth

The woman left her water jar beside the well and ran back to the village, telling everyone, “Come and see a Man who told me everything I ever did! Could He possibly be the Messiah?” So the people came streaming from the village to see Him (John 4:28-29 NLT).

Yesterday, I spoke at a youth event themed ‘the meaning of love in the 21st century’ and as someone that’s divorced twice, I spoke on the topic; ‘why are we not growing old together?’

I was excited about the event because the Lord has told me I’m going to work with the youths because they are so lost and I’m able to speak their language. However, when I got there, it was something else. Firstly, I came with one of my young mentees who was going to be ministering in songs. I assumed it was going to be gospel but when she started practising, I had to ask… “is that the song you’re going to sing?” “Yes aunty”. Okaaaay????… does your ‘STRICT’ pastor dad know? “Yes, I’ve been practicing at home”. Okaaaay????… No wonder he’s asked me to book an appointment to see him. LOL…

Secondly, hmmm… when I started seeing some of the youths and how they were dressed, especially a group of boys that run a YouTube channel called ‘let’s talk about it’…

And then the views on… monogamy, dating, premarital sex etc… hmmm. I was seating in the audience so well-blended and I’m thinking… please… don’t ever put this on YouTube.

However, I was glad I was able to hear them out and when it got to my turn, I told them yes I’m a minister but I’m not here to preach. Let’s just talk about my story in my book. Hmmm… By the time I finished, a young lady walked up to me and said… please I haven’t been to church in 6 years, can you give me your church address? Also, a young Chinese lady came and said I would love to do a documentary on your story. Another young white lady came and said when you were talking about seeing yourself as a good thing (Proverbs 18:22) before you get married, she was really moved because she’s currently struggling with identity and esteem issues so like the Chinese lady, I told her “if I give you my book, would you read it?” She said YES, so I gave her a free copy which ends with the salvation prayer. hmmm…

And then the ‘let’s talk about it’ crew were all over me… Aunty, just share a bit of what you said… we want to air it on our channel. We also want to work with you in future and I’m thinking… It works every time. My daughter couldn’t stop talking about it… mummy… “the anointing and unction that flows from you when you speak”.

It’s brokenness dear. When you break a pot that has been filled with oil, the oil just pours out uncontrollably. It’s also the power of your testimony. The Samaritan woman was created for a significant purpose, but she wasn’t necessarily equipped in the world’s eyes. So Jesus started her off with a simple tool—“her story”. She went about telling people about her experience and people came rushing to meet Jesus.

Have you got a story people need to hear?

God bless you
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10. May 2015 · Comments Off on WHAT ARE YOU FEEDING YOUR CHILDREN? · Categories: God's Plan, Healing, Jesus Christ, Relationship, Restoration, Youth

Gripping her [FIRMLY] by the hand, He said to her… Little girl, I say to you, arise…! And instantly THE GIRL GOT UP AND STARTED WALKING AROUND—FOR SHE WAS TWELVE YEARS OLD… and He [expressly] told them to GIVE HER [SOMETHING] TO EAT (Mark 5:41-43 AMP).

Last week, I was given the opportunity to minister to teenagers and young woman and most importantly, some of their parents because the word the Lord gave me was mainly for the parents.

Here we find a young girl that obeyed Jesus’ command to get up but she didn’t just get up, she STARTED WALKING AROUND—FOR SHE WAS TWELVE YEARS OLD. She was 12… that’s the age where she starts to navigate her way around life. That’s the start of the early adolescent years and I read that “the early adolescent years are a time of rapid change PHYSICALLY, SOCIALLY and EMOTIONALLY. It’s the beginning of your child’s transition from childhood to adulthood and probably a bit of wandering in nobody’s-land on the way”. Hmmm… the girl got up and started walking around…

“Children in this age group might show more concern about body image, looks, and clothes; Focus on themselves; going back and forth between high expectations and lack of confidence. Experience more moodiness; Show more interest and are influenced by peer groups… develop eating problems; Feel a lot of sadness or depression, which can lead to poor grades at school, alcohol or drug use, sex etc”.

That’s the age where the enemy tries to feed them all sorts of junk… through what their peers say… through what they see in the media and unfortunately through what they see at home… parents fighting… abusive parents… absent or busy parents…

Jesus told the parent give her something to eat…. Now my question is what kind of food are you feeding your child to meet their spiritual as well as emotional and social needs?

I like that we are focusing on Jarius daughter’s story but if we back up a bit, her story is interwoven with another story… the woman with the issue of blood (Luke 8:43-48). I told the audience that the good thing about being my age is that you come with a wealth of experience. An older woman can see herself in the 12 year old as well as she can see herself in this woman and it would amaze you how many women issues start from childhood.

I started to share my own issues which started from childhood and how it affected my daughter based on what I was unconsciously feeding her; same patterns that was about to see her go down the same path until my ‘issue of blood’ situation made me go on my knees to really reach out to touch Jesus.

Jesus healed the woman with the issue of blood while on His way to Jarius’ daughter. Here, we see healing and resurrection taking place with two generations but the older generation had to be healed first. I’m talking about emotional healing for ‎parents because until you get healed from all your own stuff, you would keep feeding your children with the wrong food… anger, bitterness… instability…

Are you in need of the healing touch of Jesus today? You might just be saving a generation.

God bless you
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21. December 2014 · Comments Off on WHAT HAS YOUR CHILD GOT? · Categories: Blessing, God's Plan, Jesus Christ, Mind, Obedience, Testimony, Trusting God, Youth

Yesterday, we celebrated Meeting by the well’s one year anniversary and it was a time of testimonies. For me, it’s been very humbling to see what God can do with a personal testimony. Many times, it didn’t make sense when He said share this aspect of your experience but it’s always amazing to hear somebody say later on, that the Lord was speaking to me through your story. It even saved someone from committing suicide and another who was so bitter to the point of contemplating murder. Amazing!

One of my passions is to reach out to our young children because it is right from when you are old enough to think that the devil starts to try to mess with your mind. So as part of the celebration, I asked a young girl aged 11 to present a short drama/monologue. I had planned to give her a script. In fact, I had started writing one but I felt the Lord say bin it and let her come up with her own script based on what she has taken away from the ministry. After all, she’s attended a few of our meetings and has heard me share my testimony several times so let’s see what she has taken from it. How has God spoken to her?

Initially, I was uneasy because I like to be in control of things but I just had to trust God and behold, when she was called up, in less than 10 minutes, this young girl delivered a message that took me a whole year to deliver. In fact; she captured the story of my life and what God is now using it to do in the lives of others in that short time. I couldn’t help shedding tears. She had a standing ovation and everybody was truly blessed. That was the highlight of the day.

Reflecting back, I can’t help but think of the young boy found in the crowd whose five loaves and two fish was used by Jesus to feed about five thousand men, besides women and children. Jesus had asked His disciples “…Where shall we buy bread for these people to eat?”… (John 6:5) and… Andrew, Simon Peter’s brother, spoke up, “Here is a boy with five small barley loaves and two small fish, but how far will they go among so many?” (John 6:8-9 NIV). However… Jesus said, “Have the people sit down.” … then took the loaves, gave thanks, and distributed to those who were seated as much as they wanted. He did the same with the fish (John 6:10-11 NIV).

This was the same thing Jesus did with this young girl and I can’t help but think whether we realise what the Lord can do with what our children have. Do we even know what they have? Are we giving them the opportunity to express themselves? You never know whether your child has food for multitudes and even nations so why not take the time to find out?

God bless you
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04. October 2013 · Comments Off on LESSONS TO LEARN FROM DAVID PT 3 · Categories: Action, Jesus Christ, Revelation, Youth

And Saul said to David, “You are not able to go against this Philistine to fight with him; FOR YOU ARE A YOUTH, and he a man of war from his youth.” But David said to Saul, “Your servant used to keep his father’s sheep, and when a lion or a bear came and took a lamb out of the flock, I went out after it and struck it, and delivered the lamb from its mouth; and when it arose against me, I caught it by its beard, and struck and killed it (1 Samuel 17:33-35 NKJV).

Still on this topic with David that has caught my attention; how many times have you said to your child… keep quite… What do you know… you are only a child? Are we giving opportunities to our youths to express themselves? King Saul happened to come across this very gifted young man called David but saw him as just a YOUTH without realising that this YOUTH was the solution to the problem that kept his nation at a standstill for 40 days. David took his time to describe what he believed to be his God-given skills but Saul didn’t pay attention. Forget all that… Then Saul dressed David in his own tunic. He put a coat of armor on him and a bronze helmet on his head (1 Samuel 17:38 NIV). Saul felt David wasn’t up to the task and tried to make up for what he believed to be David’s shortcomings by offering to give David his royal armor. Thank God David rejected it. Well… it was obvious it didn’t fit.

Do we look at our children and see ‘shortcomings’ just because the way they tackle issues does not fit our own norm of how we are used to doing things? Are we overlooking what our children and youths have to offer? Are we trying to solve today’s problems with solutions that were designed for yesterday’s problems? Do our young ones have a voice? Is God speaking to them in a unique way that is foreign to us? Are we listening?

‘In the last days,’ God says, ‘I will pour out my Spirit upon all people. YOUR SONS AND DAUGHTERS WILL PROPHESY. YOUR YOUNG MEN WILL SEE VISIONS… (Acts 2:17 NLT).

It took young David to use his God-given skills to put an end to a nation’s problem. I’m also thinking of the young boy found in the crowd whose five loaves and two fish was used by Jesus to feed about five thousand men, besides women and children.

YOUR SONS AND DAUGHTERS WILL PROPHESY. YOUR YOUNG MEN WILL SEE VISIONS… Why not spend some quality time with your children and the youths in your life this weekend asking them what the Lord is showing them. As you do so, I pray the Lord uses them to say something that would be a solution to a problem you’ve been battling with.

God bless you
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