And you have forgotten the exhortation which speaks to you as to sons: “My son, do not despise the chastening of the Lord, nor be discouraged when you are rebuked by Him; For whom the Lord loves He chastens, and scourges every son whom He receives.” If you ENDURE CHASTENING, God deals with you as with sons; for what son is there whom a father does not chasten? But if you are without chastening, of which all have become partakers, then you are illegitimate and not sons (Hebrews 12:5-8 NKJV).

Beloved, if you are like me, then chastisement isn’t a word you like hearing but that’s because many of us have memories that could be classified as abusive. I remember having a primary school teacher who would flog you depending on your test scores. So, for example, if you scored 6 out of 10 then he gave you 4 strokes of his cane. If you scored 7 out of 10, he gave you 3 strokes. The only way you escaped his chastisement was if you had a perfect score of 10 out of 10. Now, he was both my class teacher and after school (lesson) teacher so you can imagine the amount of flogging I received. However, that doesn’t mean I was dumb though (LOL).

Anyway, the point I’m trying to make is that we usually think God’s chastening is the kind of abusive chastening that many of us grew up with. However, when we look at the Greek word ‘paideia’, it means instruction that trains someone to reach full development (maturity). It involves the whole training and education of children which relates to the cultivation of mind, morals and virtues and is a means that God uses to move us from babes to mature sons.

Beloved, the Lord’s chastening isn’t punishment. Rather, it’s about educating, training, nurturing, correcting etc. and a sure sign that the He’s working in your life. Our feature text talks about enduring chastening. This isn’t a bad thing. What we need is to correct our perception. We are told that if we endure correction, God treats us as sons but not just sons, mature sons (Huios) that the world is earnestly waiting for to manifest (Romans 8:19) and not just babes or teenagers so we shouldn’t despise it or be discouraged by it.

A few days ago, I was telling a young lady about this maturity level of sonship that God wants to get us to and so if He’s taking us through a process where He’s teaching us to love or be humble like Christ, then we ought to embrace it.

I was listening to someone say God’s chastening brings about new revelation in our lives and our attitude should be ‘thank You Lord, my eyes are now open and I can see what you are doing in my life. I accept and embrace it and as you do so, you quickly move on to a higher level; a better place than you’ve ever been. They went on to say despising God’s chastening is a soul reaction while endurance is a work of the spirit.

Hmmm… Beloved, are you allowing the Lord treat you as an illegitimate son?

God bless you in Jesus Christ name
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22. June 2016 · Comments Off on RESOLVING YOUR IDENTITY ISSUES 4 · Categories: Holy Spirit, Identity, Mind, Soul, Thoughts

I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; marvelous are Your works, and that my soul knows very well (Psalm 139:14 NKJV).

Beloved, I’ve said that this is a year that the Lord has been taking me back to revisit many things from my past so I can resolve any identity crisis that could hold me back from my future.

Towards the end of last month, we held a mini school reunion with a few of my secondary school classmates based in the UK. Some of these guys I hadn’t seen since 1989 when we finished secondary school so as I entered the venue where we held our mini school reunion, someone immediately posted in my picture standing with a few other guys to our class WhatsApp group with the caption saying “pretty Ruky is in the house” and I’m thinking really? Anyway, it was a great reunion and during the course of the day, I caught one of the ladies staring at me and when I asked her why, she said something like I’m amazed at how pretty you are.

Hmmm… I went home thinking “they think I am PRETTY”. But if only they knew that I spent my whole secondary school years believing they felt I was ugly!!! Oh my God, satan lied to me!!! And it affected my choices in life which cost me 1001 heartbreaks and two divorces all because I was looking for validation from handsome men (LOL). I posted the pictures on Facebook with exactly what I am sharing with you now and many of my schoolmates were surprised. Why would you think like that? We always thought you were… this, this and that. The comments were so flattering that I replied to one saying I need to go and take another look in the mirror.

Oh how satan lied to me. Unfortunately, this is how a wrong perspective about your identity can shape your life in a wrong direction. I was listening to someone say the greatest thing you will ever learn is how to think correctly about yourself and about God because it impacts our success in the kingdom and everything else.

Also, I remember listening to a prophet telling someone that God says it offends Him the way you see yourself. We tend to say God see me differently but God says it’s not how I see you but how you see yourself and if you see you differently, you will see Me differently. If not, you would be moulded into something I didn’t ordain for you. SELAH!!!

I love how the Voice translation puts our feature text… I will offer You my grateful heart, for I am Your unique creation, filled with wonder and awe. You have approached even the smallest details with excellence; Your works are wonderful; I CARRY THIS KNOWLEDGE DEEP WITHIN MY SOUL.

Beloved… you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free (John 8:32 NKJV). What knowledge about yourself is your soul carrying? It’s time to knock down the strongholds of false human reasoning and teach your rebellious, negative thoughts to obey Christ (2 Corinthians 10:4-5).

God bless you in Jesus Christ name
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16. February 2016 · Comments Off on DON’T LET YOUR EMOTIONS LIE TO YOU · Categories: Faith, Jesus Christ, Mind, Soul, Thoughts

For we walk by faith, not by sight (2 Corinthians 5:7 NKJV).

Beloved, here’s what someone told his wife once when she kept going on and on about her emotions. He said… “Baby, do you remember that movie we watched the other day? Do you remember how hard you were crying? Did you know that was a fictitious story? That the dog did not really die at the end?”

He said she kept wiping the tears from her eyes with a tissue the whole time while he just sat there watching her. “Are you for real? Do you know these actors and actresses were actually paid to act this out?” He then said, he brought that episode up just to say “look at how your emotions lie to you. You cried over a false conclusion. Your emotions cannot be trusted.” Hmmm… after hearing this, I had to say “you stupid devil” because the day before, I was kind of in a foul mood.

Beloved, are you allowing your emotions lie to you? What are you seeing? Has the devil brought together his cast to paint a picture in front of you that isn’t real? If there’s anything he is good at, it is painting false images in our minds but you can’t afford to be an emotional wreck over something that isn’t even real.

There’s a reason why we are told to walk by FAITH and not by SIGHT because what we see isn’t always the real picture. The VOICE translation says… The path we walk is charted by faith, NOT BY WHAT WE SEE WITH OUR EYES.

We often hear people say “your eyes are the windows to the soul?” and if your soul is where your emotions reside, then you have to be careful of what you choose to see. Jesus said… Listen, your eye, your outlook, the way you see is your lamp. If your way of seeing is functioning well, then your whole life will be enlightened. But if your way of seeing is darkened, then your life will be a dark, dark place. So be careful, people, because your light may be malfunctioning. If your outlook is good, then your whole life will be bright… (Luke 11:34-36 VOICE).

And then, you’ve also got to guard your heart. I remember deleting a message someone sent to me without reading it because I knew the content was bound to upset me. Even a glimpse of the first line had already set some emotions going and I was like “NO THANKS! NOT TODAY” and when asked why, I said it was my way of guarding my heart. The Scripture says… Watch over your heart with all diligence, for from it flow the springs of life (Proverbs 4:23 AMP).

Beloved, is what you are seeing with your eyes depressing you? It isn’t your reality. Decide to walk by faith and not by sight and DON’T LET YOUR EMOTIONS LIE TO YOU.

God bless you in Jesus Christ name
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04. February 2016 · Comments Off on YOU ARE MY GOD… THE OWNER OF MY SOUL‏ · Categories: Anger, Choices, God's Plan, Jesus Christ, Prayer, Relationship, Soul, Thoughts

My lord, I am not drunk on wine or any strong drink; I am just a woman with a wounded spirit. I HAVE BEEN POURING OUT THE PAIN IN MY SOUL before the Eternal One (1 Samuel 1:15 VOICE).

Beloved, who has your soul? To make the question clearer, your soul is made up of your MIND, EMOTIONS, DESIRES, CHOICES, WILL etc. So, who really has your soul? Who has your mind? What influences the choices you make? God or something/someone else?

With the kind of world we live in today, many things are targeted towards possessing our souls – Television, social media, the drive for success/achievement/fame etc. but… what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world, and loses his own soul? (Mark 8:36 NKJV)

For some, it’s people. You find yourself trapped in unhealthy, manipulative friendships and relationships and that’s why we hear of ‘soul ties’. And then, for some, it’s painful and bitter experiences that we can’t let go of that has our soul.

Our feature text is one that has grabbed my attention for a while. When Eli saw how Hannah was praying, he though she was drunk but Hannah said “no, I’ve been pouring out my soul. Hannah must have been pouring out all her frustration, disappointment, sorrows, anger and bitterness towards Peninnah for making fun of her predicament and towards God for closing my womb (1 Samuel 1:5-7).

Hannah had to purge herself of a lot of negative emotions because she didn’t want her emotions to have her soul but here’s what was particularly interesting to me, she also had to let go of her will so that the Lord’s will would be done. God had a problem and Samuel was the solution and despite Hannah’s desperation to hold a child in her hand, she had to get to that place where she said… “Okay Lord, you can have Samuel.

I can so relate to Hannah because for the past 4 years plus, I’ve been pouring out my soul before the Lord‎. I’ve had to purge myself of all the offences, all the bitterness towards people that hurt me and towards Him… I’ve had to let go of my desires and will for His will to take centre stage and I remember telling a friend that I felt so undone.

Hmmm… The battle for your soul is real. It’s that constant struggle‎ between your desire, will etc. and that of God’s. Even Jesus had to pour out His soul when He prayed on the Mount of Olives. He prayed‎ until he got to that place where He gave up His will… Father, if You are willing, take this cup away from Me. Yet not My will, but Your will, be done… and in His anguish, He prayed even more intensely, and HIS SWEAT WAS LIKE DROPS OF BLOOD FALLING TO THE GROUND.] (Luke 22:42, 44 VOICE). It wasn’t at all easy but God won.


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